Goddess Hour

A one hour de-stressing routine for deep sleep

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Enter Goddess Hour

Shroud yourself in candle light, gentle music and aromatic scents (think lavender!) and end your day in a magical relaxed state priming you for your day and life ahead! We pay so much attention to our morning routine, now is time to love ourselves through our evening routine ❤

Goddess Hour Preparation

  1. Eat 3 hours before bed: This will ensure enough time and energy to digest without your body rumbling and tumbling as you try and fall asleep.
  2. Start winding down by 9pm: Being in bed by 10pm is essential as it is the time when you can correctly match up with the circadian rhythm of the earth. Being in alignment will help you with deeper sleep, cell rejuvenation and hormone balance. Which means the ideal time for Goddess Hour to begin is 9pm with one full hour before you should be under your covers at 10pm!
  3. Set up your Goddess space: This means setting up an area where there is enough space for you to stretch on the ground and possibly set up an alter/tool space. Find all the candles you want to use and bring that to that space. More details about the tools will be listed below.
  4. Turn off all lights 5 min. before beginning: The goal is that once you enter your beautiful candle lit space, you not once expose your eyes to light bulbs, phones or tv/iPads. This will ensure that you are ushered from a soft warm meditative state right into bed, without stimulation. The goal is not to let your body think it is day time. Dave Asprey discusses this at length in a chapter dedicated to deep sleep in his book: Super Human.

Goddess Hour Begins!

The goal of goddess hour is to give yourself enough space to roll around deep in thought and have your mind and body relaxed at the end of it. You don’t need to do all the activities, think of them as a bank you can pull from when you need it.

The Space

How I set up: I use the space in my bedroom where there is plenty of room and begin to light candles and take out my tools. I make sure there is no outside light coming in and then I grab my phone, set an alarm for tomorrow and put on a Spotify play list like this or this. Then I turn my phone over and go back to my candle lit space. I now know I have the full hour to do anything I like without distraction from lights or gadgets.

The Body

Stretching: Stress can really manifest itself in tight muscles. While you will have a unique set of tensions, one of my favorite positions is pigeon pose. This helps stretch the hip flexor and PSOAS which is the main muscle that connects your upper half to your lower half. Relieving any pressure in that realm will help relax your legs, back, groin and side muscles. Feel free to combine this with self massages like a foot massage, neck massage or lymphatic drainage massage.

The Mind


Free Flow writing: While you are meditating or stretching have the journal nearby to write down things that rise up. Don’t worry about perfect prose, jot it down, draw it, scratch it. Whatever it is, release it and move on.

Companion Books

Read a page or two: Reading a page or two from a favorite book right before bed is definitely Goddess Hour worthy! You may need to lean a little closer to the candle to get the direct light, but it is worth it and feels medieval! Here are a few I keep by my side: The Rituals, Embers, Radical Compassion, Fast this Way and The Seasonal Soul.

The Soul

Set aside 5–10 min. of Meditation

Add magic to your meditation: Envision the thing that lights you up inside. What is magical in your life? What is something magical you want to see happen? Is it swimming with the sun on your face or maybe it is laughing with friends and staying out all night. Try this variation on meditation where you focus on what is magical in your life and gaze deeply into the candle flames. Watch the flames flicker as you are drawn in deeper to your soul.

Variation on Goddess Hour

The Bath Combo: Change up your structure of how you want to utilize this quiet time and add in a bath. You could do a 45 min. bath with epsom salts, candles and a good book, followed by a light 15 min. Goddess Hour. That 15min. before bed can be used for whatever your body is calling for: stretching, journaling, meditating etc. Trust yourself and what you need!

Holistic Remedies

And to accompany Goddess Hour, here are few things that are my go to:

Further Reading

As a health and wellness enthusiast there are many sources I have dove into over the years from which my ideas for Goddess Hour have developed. Take a look below for further reading on the topic of health, wellness and self help. Enjoy!

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